COS Awareness Day: Reaching Your Entire Community

Logistics

COS provides a team of 6 presenters. Presenters will all arrive via airline and rental car for presentations. School provides lodging (6 rooms with private bathrooms) for 1-3 nights depending on presentation school. Flat fee for travel and lodging per presenter: $550-750.

 

From left to right: Tierra Barber, Amanda Blaugher, Gordon Braxton, “Drew”, Katie Koestner, Dan Schrader

Technical needs for all programs are a handheld mic for each presenter whenever there are 40+ people in attendance, a laptop/projector/screen for presenter to plug in a USB drive to show a PPT presentation.

For all “gender assigned” breakout groups or presentations, students who are non-binary may choose to be in the group with which they feel most aligned.

Sunday Evening

8:00pm-8:45pm

11th Graders

2 COS presenters (Dan & Tierra) on “If You Love Me, You Would” program on dating violence, intimate partner abuse, healthy relationships, power, control, respect, stalking, and how to get out of unhealthy relationships.

  • Flirting vs. hurting
  • Harassment vs. jokes
  • Power and control
  • Relationships in balance and respect
  • Cyber vs. in-person communication
8:45pm-9:30pm Break into single-sex groups by gender with facilitation by 2-4 COS presenters. Use the COS Facilitation Guide for guidance on the discussion. (Katie and Gordon add to presenters for breakouts)
8:00pm-9:00pm

9th Graders

Work with two COS Presenters (Amanda and Drew) on “What is Consent Under the Law?” This is the “brain” side of the issue.

  • Criminal vs. civil vs. campus laws and policies
  • Age of consent
  • Affirmative vs. passive consent

Monday

8:45am-9:30am

Faculty and Administration Session on Title IX Training and Boundary-Setting with Katie Koestner as Instructor

Focus: Nexus of Risk in time, space, power, position, location, supervision, secondary supervision, future position, etc. A mathematical analysis for self-reflection and clarity.

9:35am–10:00am Faculty and Administration break into 6 groups of 12-15 people for work on Title IX case studies with COS Presenters. Faculty will be guided through three case studies where the faculty will be in sub-groups of 3 (Faculty, Student, and “Judge”) to practice handling the situations.
Focus: word choice, body language, eye contact, tone, choice of content, declarative vs. questioning, over-all institutional goal vs. personal goal, personal comfort and bias. (Each COS presenter works with a group of 12-15)
10:05am-10:25am Re-convene for large group wrap-up with review of Title IX, sexual misconduct policies and response protocol.
Focus: COS Team will share 1 or 2 take-aways from the small group sessions. If time, review the required response for federal/state/local law? Allow everyone to ask questions.
10:30 am-12:00 pm

12th Graders

10:30am-11:20am: 2 COS Presenters (Amanda & Gordon) on “He Said – She Said: Advanced Program” with an advanced case study covering alcohol, incapacitation, coercion, bystander engagement, leadership and mentoring.
11:20am-12 noon: Break into single-sex groups.

10th Grade Boys

Personal Story of Sexual Assault by Katie Koestner, “No-Yes”
Katie shares personal story and covers essentials on sexual assault, sex, sexuality and consent. This is the “heart” side of the issue.

10th Grade Girls

Work with a COS Presenter (Tierra) on “What is Power/Control in Relationships?” This is the “brain” side of the issue.

  • Coercion vs. seduction
  • Silence vs. consent
  • Power and control
  • Relationship abuse

9th Grade Girls

Work with a COS Presenter (Drew) on Gender and Sexual Identity. Fundamentals of Consent, Respect

  • What is sexual identity vs. gender identity?
  • How can you “tell” about someone’s identity—is it possible?
  • Understanding pronouns and language around gender and sexual identity.
  • Harassment and use of “That’s so gay; etc.”
  • First look at definitions of consent and respect.

9th Grade Boys

Work with a COS Presenter (Dan) on “How Do I Define Masculinity, Femininity, and Gender?”

  • What are gender stereotypes and is there any truth in them?
  • What do we learn and absorb from our culture: media, social media, music, tv, film, gaming, etc.
  • What do we learn from our parents and adult role models?
  • How is our self-confidence affected by gender roles and gender norms?
  • What is our real self-image and who are real role models?
12:15pm-12:45pm

Facilitator Regroup

Lunch with COS Team and Faculty/Staff Wellness and Leadership Team for debriefing on how the programs have gone so far. Make any adjustments for the afternoon session.

1:00pm-2:30 pm

12th Graders

1-1:45pm: 2 Large Co-ed Groups (led by Gordon & Amanda) to follow-up from the 10:30am-12noon Program.
1:45-2:30pm: 2 COS Presenters (Gordon & Amanda) present “College Transitions” College Preparation and Issues Facing College students on safety, risk and wellness issues, including: hazing, roommate agreements, college policies and systems of discipline, fake ID’s, binge drinking and alcohol, diversity, time management, legal standards for privacy, use of university network and email, weapons, personal safety, drugs, and more.

10th Grade Girls

Personal Story of Sexual Assault by Katie Koestner, “No-Yes”
Katie shares personal story and covers essentials on sexual assault, sex, sexuality and consent. This is the “heart” side of the issue.

  •  What is sexual identity vs. gender identity?
  • How can you “tell” about someone’s identity—is it possible?
  • Understanding pronouns and language around gender and sexual identity.
  • Harassment and use of “That’s so gay; etc.”
  • First look at definitions of consent and respect.

10th Grade Boys

Work with a COS Presenter (Tierra) on “What is Power/Control in Relationships?” This is the “brain” side of the issue.

  • Coercion vs. seduction
  • Silence vs. consent
  • Power and control
  • Relationship abuse

9th Grade Boys

Work with a COS Presenter (Drew) on Gender and Sexual Identity. Fundamentals of Consent, Respect

  • What is sexual identity vs. gender identity?
  • How can you “tell” about someone’s identity—is it possible?
  • Understanding pronouns and language around gender and sexual identity.
  • Harassment and use of “That’s so gay; etc.”
  • First look at definitions of consent and respect.

9th Grade Girls

Work with a COS Presenter (Dan) on “How Do I Define Masculinity, Femininity, and Gender?”

  • What are gender stereotypes and is there any truth in them?
  • What do we learn and absorb from our culture: media, social media, music, tv, film, gaming, etc.
  • What do we learn from our parents and adult role models?
  • How is our self-confidence affected by gender roles and gender norms?
  • What is our real self-image and who are real role models?

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