Sexual Assault | Consent
What is the difference between “affirmative consent” and “effective consent”? How drunk is too drunk to give consent? Understand age of consent, coercion, emotional pressure, rape myths, and learn the skills needed to communicate more clearly and effectively in relationships.
COS opens minds and impacts attitudes with powerful personal stories, bystander challenges and clear definitions of complex policies. We speak in front of 4000 incoming students at colleges, to high school seniors before prom, at military bases for briefings with senior officers, and to parents wanted to have positive dialogue with their teens at home. COS empowers attendees to become active bystanders, prepared and willing to intervene should they have the opportunity.
COS presenters respect the values and morals of all attendees while providing essential definitions.
Top Requested Program – “I Said – You Said”
The Jury is IN! This interactive, highly engaging program involves the audience in a real-life case study about two students who meet in class. They become study partners. One night they meet up at a party. The story of their hook-up is clouded by alcohol. Did someone cross the line, or did both behave irresponsibly? Join the jury, hear the case and decide for yourself! See where you stand on respect, responsibility, relationships, communication, hook-ups and alcohol. READ MORE >>
Goals and Learning Outcomes:
- Understand how alcohol impacts decision making abilities when it comes to relationships and romantic encounters.
- Understand what constitutes consent under the law in sexual relationships, including statutory sexual assault.
- Learn how to intervene and be more proactive in social settings with bystander intervention skills.
- Learn how to clearly communicate with a dating partner about expectations and boundaries.
- Learn about resources to help someone who has been sexually assaulted.
“Never in twenty-eight-and-a-half years of assemblies have I seen any speaker, or any performance hold the kids’ attention in the way Katie did. I was sitting among the students, and sometimes when Katie was talking, I had to look away because of the intensity of what she described. When I did, I notice the rapt faces around me. The kids did not take their eyes off her. The entire theatre was so quiet that twice I heard a stomach growl just behind me. Normally a growling stomach elicits at least a small giggle, except during a final exam, and sometimes even then, but I did not hear a peep from anyone. Everyone listened to every powerful word.
Afterwards my boys were especially complimentary, saying they had expected to hear at least a little bit of male bashing, but two pointed to specific details Katie provided that showed how much she appreciates the men who helped and understood the horror of her entire experience. Two days later, kids are still talking about what Katie had to say. I wish every high school and college student could hear that talk.”
“Katie Koestner’s presentation is the start of a critical conversation for our young men. Many of them have not truly reflected on the type of decision making that they will face in college or the specific pressures and influences that impact decision making in the college context. Katie allows them to see a glimpse of the nightmare that results from a specific incident of rape. She then allows the students to consider that they will likely face a similar circumstance and need to be prepared. I also find it helpful to invite teachers of these students to the presentation so that they can continue the conversation in their classrooms or with their teams. Students benefit when this type of training and consideration is integrated into their learning and when they hear it from multiple sources.”